‘The day I met son’s killer’ - father of former Ulverston man’s tale
Last updated at 16:41, Monday, 23 December 2013
THE father of a former Ulverston man killed by a single punch has spoken of the moment he met his son’s killer.
Adam Rogers was killed on a night out in his home town of Blackburn in July 2009.
The 24-year-old was trying to usher William Upton, then 16, away from trouble, but the teen threw a punch in a senseless act of violence causing Mr Rogers to fall back against the kerb, banging his head and sustaining fatal injuries. Upton was sentenced to four years in a Young Offenders’ Institute.
As a result of their son’s death, Pat and David Rogers founded the charity Every Action Has Consequences and have handed out some 60,000 information cards and more than 3,000 DVDs as part of their push to show the dangers of binge drinking and the lasting impact it can have.
Mr Rogers snr said he felt so much anger he wanted to confront his son’s killer but on learning the youngster was keen to meet him his feelings began to change.
Mr Rogers said: “When I met him I got an honest response – he wanted to meet me and to say sorry for what he had done. When I pressed him on what he remembered, he remembered very little.
“I wanted to know things that didn’t come out at the trial.
“He could tell me some of it but with him being so drunk (during the incident) it was not as much as I’d hoped to get.”
Mr Rogers said he was inspired by his son’s attitude to life and he and his wife decided not to focus on anger but to try and foster understanding and create a positive legacy in tribute to their son.
Mrs Rogers said: “A lot of people ask us what we feel about the sentence the young man got. At the time it did not feel like it was enough – but what would be a good sentence? We wanted to focus on him realising what he had done and him coming out of prison a better person.
“He wasn’t a violent thug but a stupid 16-year-old.”
She added: “When something like this happens to you if you focus on the anger too much and the bitterness it can destroy your life completely.
“Though losing Adam changed our lives, we wanted to look at doing something positive.
“It doesn’t go away, the grief, even four and a half years on we miss him desperately, but we are trying to be positive.
“He was a very loving and giving person and that’s why we don’t focus on the anger.”
Following his death Adam’s organs helped five people live a longer life – including Mark Smith, then 39, who suffered from diabetes and had kidney failure and through the donation of Adam’s pancreas and kidney was able to go on and start a family.
Mr and Mrs Adams aim to place an education pack telling Adam’s story and the importance of looking at your actions in every school across the UK.
It is their hope in telling the story of their son they can save at least one person from going through the tragedy they had to.
First published at 16:12, Monday, 23 December 2013
Published by http://www.nwemail.co.uk
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i still today , were y adam rogers wrist band proudly :')