Barrow mum, 19, offers to 'give away' kids
Last updated at 14:21, Thursday, 06 February 2014
A TEENAGE Barrow mum has agreed to give away her unborn baby when she gives birth – to stop it being taken into care along with her two-year-old boy.
Amy Dixon wants both children to live with her boyfriend’s mum and is willing to have an injunction taken out on her and her partner, banning them from contacting the children.
The pregnant 19-year-old, of Ramsgate Crescent, Walney, said although it was “heartbreaking”, she would rather her youngsters were with a blood relative than adopted by strangers.
Social services have ruled against the proposal. Grandma Wendy Webb says she will continue fighting to get her two-year-old grandson back and to secure her granddaughter – set to be born in March and be named Trinity.
She hopes they will live with her and her two children at her Barrow home.
The 43-year-old, of Corporation Terrace is even willing to relocate to Scotland with the children to prevent access from the parents. The father is in jail for assault and the young mum and dad have said they are happy for the baby to go to Miss Webb if that’s what it takes to keep them in the family.
Miss Webb wants to appeal against the toddler’s imminent adoption next month as she feels she wasn’t fairly assessed. But the action will cost her up to £5,000.
She said: “I feel that they haven’t considered me as they should have and used the fact that my son is a criminal against me. I feel I have been treated unfairly – I don’t have a criminal record.
“My grandson was taken into care because of the arguing between Amy and my son. We did ask for help when I went on holiday and I knew Amy was depressed but nothing was done. We had just returned when Amy rang me up totally distraught saying that social services were taking him.
“That was July 1 last year and he was put into foster care. From February 21 he will be able to be adopted if a family becomes available. I want to keep on fighting this but I just don’t have the money. I am willing to move to Scotland to protect my grandchildren and I can’t understand why they won’t let me.
“If it’s too late for my grandson I want to fight for my granddaughter. We’ve been warned it is likely she will go straight into care when she is born. We would rather she was placed with me and we can then work at keeping the family unit together if that’s what it takes, or I can bring her up.
“Amy knows she has to distance herself from my son. He was her first love and it will be hard but she has to do it for the children.
“If I have my grandchildren here both of them have said they will stay away and are willing to have injunctions put on them. If they came near the house I would call the police. The only contact they would have would be through a contact centre.”
The family say social services intervened because of concerns the couple’s abusive relationship was having an adverse effect on the child.
They plan to attend counselling when Miss Dixon’s partner is released from jail. But because they will remain a couple, there are fears for the unborn child too, leading to suggestions it will be taken into care once born.
Miss Dixon said: “I think it’s all wrong. If I can’t have my children I want Wendy to bring them up. It’s heartbreaking losing your children but if they go to Wendy they will be staying with family.”
Miss Webb added: “I feel like I’m being punished because of my son’s behaviour and that’s not fair. I would love those children and bring them up as if they were my own.”
A Cumbria County Council spokesman said: “With safety of children being paramount, the adoption process involves a range of procedures and guidelines that have to be followed to deliver the best outcome for the child. We do not comment on individual, ongoing cases concerning children and young people in care.”
First published at 14:08, Thursday, 06 February 2014
Published by http://www.nwemail.co.uk
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I know that children go into care, because either there is a a definite risk or a possible risk to the child. In the children act 1989? About the protection of children.take into account. That domestic abuse can be silent and is not always physical. Physically is the last action to take place usually, in an abusive relationship. It is never easy for victims to break free. I'm not defending her nor im against her. I'm saying there is more to ask questions and understand the answers. i truly hope whatever the outcome is, i wish the children the very best, i hope that they are happy.
Children should ALWAYS come first, and abusive partners are like leopards, they never change their spots.
So often parents neglect the fact that these are young people and do not see them as that but more of "objects" or "belongings"
I hope they resolve this in what is best for the children rather than what they "think" is best for themselves.
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